When we first started this module, my first goal was to master the art of interacting with people in an informed and prepared manner, instead of freezing during a conversation because of my tendency to spend too long analyzing the situation to respond. My second goal was to be able to create “templates” for people I’m working with to better understand how to approach or interact with them, but to not over-rely on these templates and making assumptions based on my preconceived perception on them.
This module had me team up with a group of people I didn’t have a chance to interact with earlier, and each of them were unique individuals and archetypes that were different from what I was used to. This gave me the perfect stage to utilize the techniques taught in class to help achieve my goals. There were many times when I didn’t like the direction the project was headed, and I used my newly acquired skills of Non-verbal communication such as tone and hand gestures to assert my views. I also made use of Verbal communication to converse my points clearly and concisely, backed by concrete reasoning and facts, with confidence.
As I got to know my teammates better, I learnt more about their personality types and personal quirks. Early on, we all did Myers-Briggs tests, and I learnt about their listening styles. For example, Khairil (Extroverted Feeling) was the sensitive one who made decisions based on how everyone felt, while Hanzalah (Extroverted Thinking) who preferred to make decisions through everyone’s logical reasoning. Jason (Sensing) had an eye for the tiny details and whether or not an idea was feasible as compared to how me and Jarren (iNtuitive) come up with grand concepts that sound amazing on paper, but may not be realistic. This was very helpful during discussions, and I learnt how to persuade them by appealing to their individual traits, but I also made sure not to assume that they would always react the same way, due to the unpredictable nature of humanity.
However, I definitely have room to grow, as looking back, there were times when I should have used Active listening to pick up on my teammate’s opinions instead of being overly aggressive in pushing my own agenda. We unintentionally created an Authoritarian environment, where it seemed that everyone was Competing in a shouting match to push their ideas instead of Collaborating and working together in the same direction. There were even times when my teammates were discontent with my opinions, but I falsely assumed that since none of them spoke up directly, everyone was generally in agreement. Getting my point across shouldn’t be my only goal in the conversation, and I need to learn to listen better to other people’s opinions, so that I may gain better insight and possibly find even better solutions.
I learnt a lot about my communication style throughout the course of this module, and I’ve achieved my goal of getting my point across effectively, as well as my goal of creating templates to assist me in interacting with them. However, I am even more self-aware of my shortcomings now when it comes to group discussions. Therefore, I’ll end off by setting myself a new goal: instead of focusing on how to get the most favorable outcome for myself like I did when I was creating goals at the start of the module, my next goal will be to pick up on other people’s feelings better. Especially in a group project, it is of paramount importance that I realize that other people might have important things to say, but may be stifled by too much heated discussion to want to express their opposing opinions for fear of a potential argument. Thank you all for following my journey to become an expert communicator, and I hope you have enjoyed reading my posts as much as I have making them. Till next time!